The Daily Groove


Creative Democracy

A recent conversation with my daughter...

"What's that sign, Daddy?"

"That's a political sign for the upcoming election."

"What's an election?"

I did my best to convey the abstraction of democracy to a 5-year-old. "Do you know what voting is?"

"No."

"Okay... Pretend we're deciding what to make for dinner, and we're choosing between pizza and spaghetti. Each of us gets to vote for which one we want... Which one would you vote for?"

"I want pizza AND spaghetti!"

Suddenly I was the student, and the lesson was clear: either/or, win/lose thinking is not something our kids are born with. It's learned. Even if we don't actively teach it to them, we teach it passively whenever we take scarcity and competition for granted.

Today, pay close attention to your decision-making processes — your private "elections." Are they based on scarcity and competition, or abundance and creativity?

Are you willing to concede your contentious elections and surrender to the creative process?

cookies AND ice cream!

Wow, this groove brings back some strong childhood memories for me. I had a recurring nightmare (yes, nightmare) about being made to choose between my two favorite treats, cookies and ice cream. In the dream, I was standing on our front porch, crying, while my parents and sisters got into the car, ready to drive away without me because I couldn't decide whether I wanted to go get a cookie or an ice cream cone.

I'd never thought of that as being a lesson in scarcity that I was reluctant to learn. Because it was recurring, my parents were familiar with the dream, and interpreted it as evidence of my personal difficulty with decision-making.

I've been having trouble making some decisions about what's coming next in my life, and you know what, I'm not going to choose. I'm going to get creative. :)

Thanks, Scott!!! :)

~Amanda
Mom to three boys