You can be an idealistic parent without falling into the trap of perfectionism.
Your parenting ideals give you a focal point, a sense of direction on your journey.
But perfectionism demands the impossible: Get to the destination without taking the journey! ("If you can't do it right, don't do it at all!")
If perfectionism is keeping you from enjoying your idealistic parenting journey — if you feel ashamed whenever you fall short of your ideals — consider this funny-but-true saying:
Anything worth doing
is worth doing poorly at first.
You knew that when you were born. That's why you were filled with joy when you took your first, wobbly steps as a baby.
Today, remember that every worthwhile journey begins with a few wobbly steps. And give yourself permission to enjoy the wobbles!