Our conflict-oriented culture teaches us that our desires are more valid if they're "justified," which means being on the "right" side of a conflict.
So a good way to begin transforming conflict situations is to affirm to yourself that your desires are valid "just because" — that you don't need to justify your desires. You don't need to be somehow disadvantaged to justify your desire for help keeping your home tidy, and you don't need obedient kids to justify your parenting philosophy.
When you validate your own desires unconditionally, you no longer need to be "right," and that alone dissolves many conflicts. You also no longer need the drama of conflict to keep boredom at bay, because when you're not busy being "right" you get to apply your creative energy to actually satisfying your desires, which is both exciting and fulfilling!