Needs and Desires (Part 3)

by Scott Noelle

Understanding that desires are just as valid as needs (Part 1), and looking for desires where you once saw only needs (Part 2), makes it easier to practice the Art of Unconditionality.

That’s because we tend to perceive needs as requirements (conditions) for well-being. For example...

A child makes a mess, and her father thinks, “I feel frustrated because I need more order in the house.” In other words, he believes his well-being depends on the external condition of an orderly house. His desire for order is valid, but his perception of it as a need is disempowering.

Unconditionality means allowing yourself to connect with well-being under any conditions. And when you’re focused on well-being, you attract more well-being into your experience.

When you exude the energy of Well-Being as you focus on your desire, that energy is attractive to your child. As s/he aligns with that energy in you, s/he will be more likely to align with your desire as well.

Originally published on 2006-09-07
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