The Daily Groove


The Power of Attraction

Attraction means pulling instead of pushing. The "pull" of attraction is not physical. You attract by focusing your mind. Your thoughts have a sort of "gravity" that pulls matching thoughts, conditions and events into your awareness and experience.

Today, try this experiment...

Think of one characteristic that you really, really adore and appreciate about your child. Something that makes you smile when you think about it. Pick a keyword or phrase to remind you of this trait, and write it on the back of your hand. (If your child can read, use a code word or symbol instead.)

The idea is to focus on this aspect of your child as many times as you can today. But don't tell your child specifically what you're doing — the power is in what you think, not what you say.

You might also put little reminder Post-It notes in places like door handles, telephones, the fridge, your car visor — wherever you frequently look or reach.

After a full day of focusing on this aspect of your child, review the day and note how it affected your interactions.

Can you see how, through your intentional focus, you created (attracted) that experience?

This attraction thing really works! (An example)

Here's the results of one mother's attraction experiment with her 7-year-old daughter:

First of all, it was hard to think of something I really appreciate about my child. Not that there isn't anything, but I never tried to figure out what. "Traditional" parenting tries to focus on what the children "do right", so I learned to appreciate only when she did something "right"... so my first thoughts were: "I appreciate when she's nice... when she does what I want her to do... when she cleans up her room..." I kept thinking... nah, I cannot use that. :-)

Then I asked my boyfriend and he said "her sense of humour" and "her sense of justice". :-) So I focused on her sense of justice and put little post-its everywhere showing a balance (old-fashioned weighing machine?) and I drew one on my hand.

First of all, I got really excited about it and was eager to look for this. And then, when she said "No, that's unfair, I want to do this first!" or things like that, I could look at her objections from a totally different perspective, appreciating her own will, which very often is based on her sense of justice. :-) I feel closer to her now.