The Daily Groove


Relieving Time Pressure

You enjoy parenting most when you feel expansive and flowing — the way you feel when you're not under any kind of pressure.

One of the most common pressures of modern life is time pressure: having to be somewhere or do something by a certain time. Young children naturally live in the moment, not by the clock, so subjecting them to time pressure usually leads to discord.

To reduce time pressure in your daily groove...

  • Decide that geniality (feeling good) is more important than punctuality (being 'right').
  • Don't agree to be on time — build flexibility into your agreements. ("I'll be there around 7:00-ish.")
  • When you really want to be on time to an appointment, give yourself LOTS of extra cushion time — just accept that life with kids is less "efficient."
  • Don't rush when you're late — call and renegotiate! For all you know, the person you're meeting may be late, too.
  • When you can get away with it, don't make plans at all! Enjoy living spontaneously!

Re: Relieving Time Pressure

This is probably my biggest problem area! I'm usually running late (even pre-kids), almost always feeling bad about it, and frequently yelling at my kids while trying to get going. (I had "always" with all three parts of that but then I realized "always" wasn't really true. I have learned a little from reading Daily Groove for about 2-1/2 years!)

So I really appreciate this article. Building in more cushion time is probably the number one way I could help our lives flow better.